Things to enjoy before motherhood

Motherhood is an awesome thing, really, it is.  Having a baby changes everything, really, it does.  There were so many things I took for granted before I had my daughter.  I sometimes miss them but sometimes I’m too sleep deprived and totally numb to care.

  1. Sleeping in.  Sleeping in general takes a back seat to caring for a baby.  They wake up at night and need stuff like nursing, diaper changes or just a cuddle.  I sometimes am amazed how my body can sometimes manage on a couple of hours of sleep for days.
  2. Going out in 5 minutes.  Now it takes 45 minutes.  Change diaper, feed baby, make sure diaper bag has everything, change clothes, comb hair (I guess this is why bald babies need less time to go out), change diaper again, find the missing hair clip, comb hair again, find missing sock under the sofa, put on said sock and shoes, find keys, find wallet, find cell phone.  Mommy then needs to get into clean clothes and we can leave the house.  In the car you need another 10 minutes to put baby in the car seat especially if said baby has learned how to wiggle out of the harness.
  3. Going wherever you want.  I haven’t been to the movies in 10 months.  I really would love to see a movie, but I don’t want to annoy everyone else with a crying baby and I don’t want to have to get up and take her our if she cries and miss all of the nice bits in the movie.  God bless DVDs.
  4. Traveling light.  Diaper bag, mommy bag, toys, food, stroller and that’s only what you need for a quick pop to the shops.
  5. Being selfish.  Yes, being selfish was fun.
  6. Me time.  Just sitting and chilling out is something I miss.  Babies seem to have this internal system that lets them know when you need to relax and they suddenly need to play and make a mess.
  7. Manicures and pedicures.  I still occasionally manage to go and get one but they are very few and far between.
  8. Clutter free living.  I have two toy boxes (well one box and one big fish looking bucket)  but still some toys find their way under the coffee table, in our bed and in the kitchen.  I make a big deal of teaching my daughter that the toys need to sleep in their boxes hopefully that one day she will learn to do it herself.
  9. Getting sick.  Getting sick is a luxury because who will do all of the things mommy does for baby?  Once I figure out who can do them I will get sick.
  10. Driving recklessly.  Driving was something I never imagined would have changed because I am more or less a safe driver but now I drive much slower and always feel like I need to be extra careful.

On a more positive note, I get to watch lots of Sesame Street.


  • At 2008.12.30 11:08, insomniac said:

    amen to all that!

    i even started hating winter because it’s the getting-sick season and i can’t afford getting sick, not to mention how crappy life becomes when they do!!

    and vacation planning starts having a whole new meaning and extremely different criteria, like how long the trip should take, either by car, train, or plane! you’d be surprised to find out how many things you used to do when u were baby-less that you can’t even consider now!

    but hey, once they’re in nursery age, you get small part of your life back unless you work! so before you decide to go back to work when ur baby is old enough to go to the nursery, take some time to do some of those things ;))

    they say it gets easier as they grow older, but there is always the burden of raising them properly….

    i’ll shut up now :)

    • At 2008.12.30 11:32, mona said:

      GOOOOD post! Listen close all you not-yet moms! And I LOVE the Alligator King!(and his seventh son)

      • At 2008.12.30 14:12, jessyz said:

        @insomniac: heheh howa el 7amdulla, I still get to do other fun things like sesame street*grin* and I crawl on the floor and play with her so, it’s fun. My husband and I were just remembering how much easier it’s become taking her hout compared to before, now if she get’s hungry we give her a carrot or something.
        @mona: They have no idea what’s comming at them.*evil grin*

        • At 2008.12.30 14:43, Swair said:

          Sesame Street rules :p

          • At 2009.01.01 20:39, Solace said:

            Before dd I never got sick, now I am sick often.

            Dd can watch her programme in peace and quiet, I have to read the sub-titles otherwise I won’t know what is happening on tv:-(

            • At 2009.01.04 14:45, jessyz said:

              @Swair: Sesame Street rocks!
              @Solace: I think we’re more aware of getting sick when we have to care for little ones. Do u mute the TV?