Two days ago Juka was wondering if we gave up instant messaging would we still be friends?  I  think so because well if we gave up instant messaging  we might not have a way to communicate.  I am guessing that our parents knew less people than we did and were much less connected than we are.  Mainly because if they didn’t see someone regularly that person just fell off their radar and lost touch with them.  Maybe our relationships are more superficial than their friendships but I am still sure that each one of us has close friends and family members with deeper connections just like our older generation did.  I think change is inevitable and the best thing to do is to embrace it.

I also love the fact that I can connect with people I might never have been able to with the use of technology.  My favorite example here is that I am following my favorite authors on Twitter.  I most probably will never really be friends with them but I do have a good chance on interacting with them.

My daughter and mother can talk to each other everyday and see each other using a web camera.  If we didn’t have that or if we decided to stop using IM two generations would not be able to connect.  I think that IM, social networks and other communications technologies are not the reason for the change in our social behavior but lots of other factors need to be accounted for to be able to find something to blame the changes on.  It is also a choice.  People who choose to connect with the people around them still get that, those who don’t get less meaningful and not so deep relationships.

I went off on a tangent, Juka mentioned something about people being fake online and I went on thinking about it.  Do we create fake alter egos for ourselves that we think look better to the outside world or are we just trying to project how we really just want the world to perceive us.  I think that even in the real world we are guilty of trying to look different to the world than we really are.  But is that a bad thing?  Isn’t it part of personal development and growth to be better people?  Isn’t that where the phrase “fake it till you make it” comes from?  If you start acting like something you can eventually be that thing.  Of course the extreme case would be the protagonist in the movie Catch me if you can, but I am talking about everyday normal folk.

I am aware of the persona I use on this blog. It is almost a mirror image of my real character and I am sure that the people who know me really well can attest to that.  The differences lie in where I draw the line to my personal privacy.  I still have a really huge personal space bubble in real life but it’s bigger online because well of security reasons.

In general I like the world to think of me as a happy, easy going, relaxed and interesting person.  I like to think that is who I am too.  Most of the time I am, but there are times when I am stressed out, unhappy or really boring, why should the world see that?  Or should they?

I don’t know, but I am sure I like to keep my issues to myself until I’ve figured out a way to deal with them.  It’s not an attempt to trick anyone or pretending to be someone I am not.

On another note, don’t we all play different roles depending on our setting?  Are you the exact same person with your parents, friends, cousins, coworkers, boss, etc?  I don’t think so.


  • At 2009.09.06 19:04, Mohaly said:

    You are all of these, the real character is the blend of all these roles :)

    • At 2009.09.08 12:24, jessyz said:

      I know, which is why I don’t think people hide so much as they just have different characters for different occasions. Just like clothes :-)

      • At 2009.09.06 19:52, Juka said:

        :) Flattered!

        I agree with Mohaly on the intricateness and complexity of our real personas.

        • At 2009.09.08 12:25, jessyz said:

          :-) how many personas do you have?

          • At 2009.09.08 22:58, ze2red said:

            the title is more than great.

            and i loved the intro part sooo much, and i do the same as u do when it comes to the doaa of getting up from ruku3, i love it so much, and i get sad when i’m in gam3a and i’m not able to say it all.

            i’m being jealous everybody is doing their list w ana lesa because i have a delivery to make :(, pray for me to get over with it, and write mine sooon.

            • At 2009.09.13 17:06, jessyz said:

              Rabena ye2aweeki, do you work in the software industry?
              Deliveries suck.

              It is easier delivering a baby than delivering milestones.
              Hoping to see your list soon isa.

              • At 2009.09.13 17:28, ze2red said:

                Seems that i wasn’t having enough sleep when i wrote my comment, because obviously it’s added on a wrong post 😀 “ma3lesh el 3atab 3ala el nazaar :)”

                i do work in the SW industry, i’m a TA with Gjoe at FCI. my delivery last week was something that had to do with my MSc. i finally did the 1st part of the delivery, yet the rest to come. pray for me hard, plz.

                about my list it’s out on my blog for a few days now, and here is the link

                • At 2009.09.13 22:38, jessyz said:

                  Rabena ye2aweeki, fi bet ha 3amattan :-)