http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/ A smooth minty cream wrapped in rich bittersweet chocolate Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:14:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10777 Validation! « IBHOG Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:25:47 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10777 [...] is, missing an opportunity might be an opportunity. -Shimaa Why do some mothers forget to smile?. -Jessyz You think the whole “Change the World” part is a bit over the notch? Watch me. -Gjoez (which [...] [...] is, missing an opportunity might be an opportunity. -Shimaa Why do some mothers forget to smile?. -Jessyz You think the whole “Change the World” part is a bit over the notch? Watch me. -Gjoez (which [...]

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10617 jessyz Mon, 23 Nov 2009 06:21:04 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10617 I didn't just mean looks, I meant the whole deal. It is also a little cultural thing that mothers in Egypt think they have to be self-sacrificing to be good mothers. I think a woman can be a good caring mother and at the same time doing something for herself whatever it is. It just takes some time to achieve that balance. Part of the problem is that the initial shock of becoming a mother is hard on most women. Personally when I was pregnant I read loads of books, blogs and listened to so many mothers but I still never imagined what was really waiting for me. The first few months are the hardest and most exhausting. Then things become easier but more challenging in other ways. Mothering in itself is always evolving and it takes a lot of energy to keep up with it. I didn’t just mean looks, I meant the whole deal. It is also a little cultural thing that mothers in Egypt think they have to be self-sacrificing to be good mothers. I think a woman can be a good caring mother and at the same time doing something for herself whatever it is. It just takes some time to achieve that balance. Part of the problem is that the initial shock of becoming a mother is hard on most women. Personally when I was pregnant I read loads of books, blogs and listened to so many mothers but I still never imagined what was really waiting for me. The first few months are the hardest and most exhausting. Then things become easier but more challenging in other ways. Mothering in itself is always evolving and it takes a lot of energy to keep up with it.

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]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10605 Annie @ PhD in Parenting Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:44:58 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10605 I think there is a difference between not obsessing about your looks and not taking care of yourself. I don't feel the need to look perfect all the time. However, I do take time for myself to do things for myself. If a pedicure is what makes a woman feel great, then she should do that. But if playing sports, having coffee with friends, joining a book club, or something else is what makes a woman feel great, then she should take time to do that. We all need balance in our lives and that doesn't end when we become mothers. I think there is a difference between not obsessing about your looks and not taking care of yourself. I don’t feel the need to look perfect all the time. However, I do take time for myself to do things for myself. If a pedicure is what makes a woman feel great, then she should do that. But if playing sports, having coffee with friends, joining a book club, or something else is what makes a woman feel great, then she should take time to do that. We all need balance in our lives and that doesn’t end when we become mothers.

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10492 jessyz Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:15:48 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10492 I used to feel the same way too. I used to feel the same way too.

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10491 Organica Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:34:47 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10491 I feel the same way about the kid thing for now. I feel the same way about the kid thing for now.

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10484 jessyz Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:17:14 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10484 True, but it takes a lot of practice and trial and error. We all go into marriage thinking we won't be like everyone else, but we end up going through the same problems and issues. True, but it takes a lot of practice and trial and error. We all go into marriage thinking we won’t be like everyone else, but we end up going through the same problems and issues.

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10482 jessyz Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:14:05 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10482 It is true that in any marriage at first , the first year really is the second hardest, the hardest year in my opinion is the year after the first baby is born, because it is just like the first year but you also have a screaming baby to feed, change diapers and generally serve. We need lots of education for young adults on dealing with marriage and children, it might help alot in my opinion. It is true that in any marriage at first , the first year really is the second hardest, the hardest year in my opinion is the year after the first baby is born, because it is just like the first year but you also have a screaming baby to feed, change diapers and generally serve. We need lots of education for young adults on dealing with marriage and children, it might help alot in my opinion.

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10481 jessyz Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:12:10 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10481 Waiting for your 3ala rawa2a comment Waiting for your 3ala rawa2a comment

]]> http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/2009/11/my-thoughts-on-motherhood-and-the-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10480 jessyz Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:11:28 +0000 http://www.chocolatemintsinajar.com/blog/?p=1464#comment-10480 I totally agree that the Modern Arab Mom is different from the older generation of moms. But here's what I also think. My grandmother's generation in Egypt was better off. They went to the hairdresser every week, had weekly pedicures and manicures and care about their looks more than the generation after them. So I definitely think that something happened in the middle. Maybe it was the economic and socioeconomic changes in the 60s and 70s that cause this change, I am not sure. Support from my husband would be awesome, but he's already swamped with work and does not really have the time or energy to do anything. Which, by the way I also think is wrong for him, I wish he would slow down a bit and enjoy life more. Thankfully I usually smell nice :-) showering and perfume help. I totally agree that the Modern Arab Mom is different from the older generation of moms. But here’s what I also think. My grandmother’s generation in Egypt was better off. They went to the hairdresser every week, had weekly pedicures and manicures and care about their looks more than the generation after them. So I definitely think that something happened in the middle. Maybe it was the economic and socioeconomic changes in the 60s and 70s that cause this change, I am not sure. Support from my husband would be awesome, but he’s already swamped with work and does not really have the time or energy to do anything. Which, by the way I also think is wrong for him, I wish he would slow down a bit and enjoy life more.
Thankfully I usually smell nice showering and perfume help.

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