It’s not Friday but another Kolena Laila post. Marriage is tricky business. Even the most compatible couples have their issues but smart couples know how to deal with them.
You will fight
You probably fought before you got married right? If you didn’t then consider yourself extremely lucky. Your first fight as a married couple is usually freaky. You are shocked and hurt not just because you had a fight but because you had a fight even after you went through all of the hassle of getting married. Take a deep breath and get over yourself. Disagreeing is normal. We all fight with our siblings and parents and these are the people who have known you your whole life. It is normal, just remember to stay civilized and learn when to compromise and let go. Unless of course the fight includes abuse of any kind you should learn to let go and once you have made up forget about it.
Stop yourself from nagging
No body likes a nagging wife. Nagging does not work. The more you nag the better your husband will learn to resist. If nagging worked, a wife would nag once and would never need to nag again (convinced right?). Gretchen Ruben (The Happiness Project) has some really great 14 tips to stop nagging.
Appreciate the little things
Your husband throws his socks on the floor and it is really annoying. But he also remembers to do little things your love, like call you in the middle of the day just to say hi or buys you flowers for no reason. Whatever the little things are make sure that you appreciate and enjoy them.
Whether it is a Wednesday movie night, Friday barbecue or Saturday bowling find an activity you both love to do and make it a habit. Some people might argue that this is boring and routine. I think it just adds some structure to an already hectic life. It is also couple time when you can do something together as a team. My husband and I make pizza every (well almost) Thursday. I make the dough and he makes the sauce and adds the toppings. I make fun of him because he’s really obsessed about slicing mushrooms as thin as possible and makes sure they are all the same thickness and he makes fun of me because I move around too much in the kitchen and get in his way all the time. It was originally a healthier alternative to ordering pizza but it turned into a fun activity. We have learned how to act like a team. I learned not to interfere with his slicing skills and he has stopped nagging me to make the crust thinner.
Be true to yourself
There are many times when you will have to compromise or do something you don’t really want to but this can’t be a permanent thing. You have to stay true to yourself or your marriage will not work. Period.
There are so many other things wives should know but these are just the first five off the top of my head.
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