Friday's Five: Things Every Woman Should Know

I am a day late and it is Saturday.  I have all of these post ideas written down in notes all over the place but my crochet obsession has taken over my internet obsession which is a good thing in general.

This post is dedicated to all women and is also a Kolena Laila post.

Women should know lots of things, these are just five of the things I think are important.

Handling finances

Every woman should know how to handle her own finances.  A woman who can create a budget and stick to it is a woman who can buy her own Choos ;- ).  Whether you make money, still take an allowance from your parents (if you are young and still at school) or are a housewife you have to understand money.  Knowing where your money goes and how to stretch it is a learned skill that anyone can acquire.

Change a tire

Every woman should know how to change a tire, unclog a drain and do simple fix its around the house.  Just because there is someone else who can do it for you does not mean you shouldn’t learn, you never know when you might need to do it yourself.


Self defense could save your life.  When I was a child I once watched a public service show on women and safety, the tips were simple; when you are out alone always walk in the middle of the street where there is the most light and keep your bag close to you so no one can snatch it away.  Simple and effective.  Carry pepper spray or even deodorant.  I am not paranoid nor do I believe that we live in a jungle where woman are targets and victims but it is always better to be safe than sorry.  You can find some tips here on safety and self defense.

Choosing friends

Some friends are like diamonds other friends are like broken glass, pretty useless and can hurt you, learn to spot them early one, keep the diamonds and recycle the glass.  Choose friends who are supportive, honest and a positive influence.  If your friends just make you feel bad about yourself it might be time to move and make new ones.

Standing up for your self

Learn to stand up for yourself firmly and intellegently.  Learn to negotiate.  Standing up for yourself doesn’t have to mean being aggressive it just means you are a smart lady who will take no ones crap.  Be assertive, positive and polite and you can do anything in the world.

One final thing, remember to pass it on.  Not just this post, but anything you think is useful for the women around you.  Women have always swapped recipes and these are just recipes for a better life.

Kolena Laila will be running until the 31st of December.  Join the conversation.


  • At 2009.12.26 10:27, sameha said:

    Happy new week ya jessyz :)…again to7fa…I like the finance part and the best thing is the recycle them part :) Sa7 some friends only hurt and others r like diamonds :)
    About the tire..never thought of this but its a good idea :)
    Show us some of your new crochet outputs :)

    • At 2010.01.05 07:59, jessyz said:

      Happy new year to you too.
      You are a diamond ya Semsem walahi :-)
      I have posting plans for crochet, it is on my to do list 😉

      • At 2009.12.26 11:25, Rula A. said:

        Thank you for the advice and yes every lady should at least know the technic of changing a tire -Theoretical-,, And crochet is a nice hobby don’t give up on it..

        • At 2010.01.05 08:01, jessyz said:

          Yes, even if you only just know how to do it. I am enjoying the crochet.

          • At 2009.12.27 04:27, ze2red said:

            jessy, i love the whole five, and if i’ll comment on each one it will be another post 😀


            Finance, i guess i’m doing a good job in that area.

            Tires: i’m always my dad’s assistant but never gave it a try on my own, hope i would before el zan2a 😀

            defense: always thought i’m safe, but i considered once taking physical defense lessons, but never executed the idea.

            Friends: i’ve been walking along that path for several months now, my best friend keep saying to me that i’m in a “cut off friends phase”.

            standing up for myself: need more tips please, sometimes i lack the technique.

            • At 2010.01.05 08:03, jessyz said:

              Hehehehe, as long as you know how to do it then you are on the safe side isa, we rabena la yewa2a3ek fe dee2a wala ye7wegek le ta3’yerha asasan.
              I am not very good at standing up for myself because I usually avoid confrontations unless I really have to, but the best advise I can give you which is something I learned from my Dad is never ever answer back when you are angry, wait till you have cooled down and your brain has gone back into thinking mode.

              • At 2010.01.05 10:47, ze2red said:

                Thanks :)

                • At 2010.01.12 14:13, Arif said:

                  i love you all