The third post in the For Women series is written by Ze2red. I have had the lovely pleasure of meeting her the last time I was in Egypt. The first impression you get when you meet her is that she is bubbly, but then you realize that she is deep and smart too. A movie buff who posts interesting movie reviews, a book lover and a sweet sweet person.
Everyday we face hundreds of decisions to be made. Some of them are so easy that we don’t really notice we are making. We just get used to the idea of waking up deciding what to have for breakfast, what clothes to wear, which colors to pick, what to have for lunch, whether to watch tv that day or spend the time surfing online. As much as those decisions are easy and you make them in an eye blink, life isn’t that easy all the time.
Every now and then we are faced with some serious decisions that need to be made. The kind of decisions that gives you a complete mood swing, insomnia and eating disorders. Hard/Tough/Difficult decisions are always thought to be of this kind because they result in some serious changes in our lives. They literarily take a person out of her comfort zone, where she is in control of everything and outcomes are pretty much known and expected. This is the first thought that crosses anyone’s mind when faced with those kind of decisions.
To be honest, there is no way to make those decisions easier, unless you convince yourself it’s a normal phase you will have to pass keeping in mind that you should maximize your benefits, and cut down your losses as much as you can. In order to do that, there are ways to make the process faster and more productive. Instead of leaving your mind to its own mess and juggling around between this and that. You need to layout the decision making process as follows:
• Objectives must first be established (point all of your objectives out. You can brainstorm the objectives. Make the thoughts flow on a piece of paper. Free your mind from all of the fear constraints. After all they will be some words on a piece of paper which you can toss at anytime)
• Objectives must be classified and placed in order of importance (this step is really important. Rank and prioritize according to your situation, and keep in mind every person’s life and circumstances are different than the other. Do what fits you the most.)
• Alternative actions must be developed (means if you won’t be in favor of this decision, what is the other thing you will do? Is there another decision?
In addition to that, pleaseeeee picture your future and the impact of each alternative on your life. You can again brainstorm that. Whatever comes to your mind, good and bad, just write them down.)
• The alternative must be evaluated against all the objectives (you can list pros and cons for each alternative. Or you can assign weights. Choose the method that makes you comfortable and makes you see the whole picture while going in the process.)
• Finally, The alternative that is able to achieve all the objectives (or most of them) is the tentative decision.
Sometimes, after you go through that, it’s a matter of taking the risk or not. Fearing change and failure. I always tell myself, nothing is guaranteed. Even if I hold on to my comfort zone, things will pop up forcing me out of it. So if it comes down to taking the risk or not, take the leap every once in a while and add a new flavor of change to your life.
Hope this was of any help,