For Women: Decision Making

The third post in the For Women series is written by Ze2red.  I have had the lovely pleasure of meeting her the last time I was in Egypt.  The first impression you get when you meet her is that she is bubbly, but then you realize that she is deep and smart too.  A movie buff who posts interesting movie reviews, a book lover and a sweet sweet person.

 


 

 

Decision Making

Everyday we face hundreds of decisions to be made. Some of them are so easy that we don’t really notice we are making. We just get used to the idea of waking up deciding what to have for breakfast, what clothes to wear, which colors to pick, what to have for lunch, whether to watch tv that day or spend the time surfing online. As much as those decisions are easy and you make them in an eye blink, life isn’t that easy all the time.

Every now and then we are faced with some serious decisions that need to be made. The kind of decisions that gives you a complete mood swing, insomnia and eating disorders. Hard/Tough/Difficult decisions are always thought to be of this kind because they result in some serious changes in our lives. They literarily take a person out of her comfort zone, where she is in control of everything and outcomes are pretty much known and expected. This is the first thought that crosses anyone’s mind when faced with those kind of decisions.

To be honest, there is no way to make those decisions easier, unless you convince yourself it’s a normal phase you will have to pass keeping in mind that you should maximize your benefits, and cut down your losses as much as you can. In order to do that, there are ways to make the process faster and more productive. Instead of leaving your mind to its own mess and juggling around between this and that. You need to layout the decision making process as follows:

Decision Making

Objectives must first be established (point all of your objectives out. You can brainstorm the objectives. Make the thoughts flow on a piece of paper. Free your mind from all of the fear constraints. After all they will be some words on a piece of paper which you can toss at anytime)

Objectives must be classified and placed in order of importance (this step is really important. Rank and prioritize according to your situation, and keep in mind every person’s life and circumstances are different than the other. Do what fits you the most.)

Alternative actions must be developed (means if you won’t be in favor of this decision, what is the other thing you will do? Is there another decision?

In addition to that, pleaseeeee picture your future and the impact of each alternative on your life. You can again brainstorm that. Whatever comes to your mind, good and bad, just write them down.)

The alternative must be evaluated against all the objectives (you can list pros and cons for each alternative. Or you can assign weights. Choose the method that makes you comfortable and makes you see the whole picture while going in the process.)

Finally, The alternative that is able to achieve all the objectives (or most of them) is the tentative decision.

Sometimes, after you go through that, it’s a matter of taking the risk or not. Fearing change and failure. I always tell myself, nothing is guaranteed. Even if I hold on to my comfort zone, things will pop up forcing me out of it. So if it comes down to taking the risk or not, take the leap every once in a while and add a new flavor of change to your life.

Hope this was of any help,

Ze2red

9 Comments

  • At 2011.03.04 12:20, gessyz said:

    This should be a post from a girl specialized in Decision making :)

    I like this post , maktoob keda be esloob 3elmy :)))

    • At 2011.03.05 17:00, ze2red said:

      shamma re7eet tarya2a :)

      • At 2011.03.04 13:35, Noha said:

        I like the way decision making process to be sequenced in that manner. Reminds me of a book I’ve been waiting to read, 10-10-10 by Suzy Welch. She describes a similar approach to what’s written: Explore the impact for the 10 min, 10 months, 10 years. I’m still in the beginning of it & will write a review after I finish it.

        Thanks for sharing :)

        • At 2011.03.05 17:05, ze2red said:

          Noha,
          Decision Making is a science taught at Universities, and i’m proud i chose it as a major for my studies. And i’ll be waiting for that book review.

          • At 2011.03.04 16:47, Mona said:

            This is really informative. I’m so indecisive sometimes. Even when just choosing something from the menu or picking a shampoo!

            • At 2011.03.05 17:14, ze2red said:

              Sometimes life turning decisions have to be made as quickly and as rationally as possible. I, personally, to guarantee that someday i will reach that point, which i’m walking with a fast pace towards, started training myself on simple and small decisions. It takes training, practicing and sometimes learning from your mistakes.

              • At 2011.03.05 00:47, deppy said:

                Good choice, Ze2red =)

                • At 2011.03.05 01:15, Hebba said:

                  Zou ya 7abibty. i liked very much what you wrote here. and the idea itself.
                  i know what you mean by hard descisions that gets one out of herself.i know how descision making can be hard, even in simple stuff like you mentioned at the beginning of your article.the point is, when someone is lost, they are lost even in msall things.and when someone fears desisicon taking it is for small and big things as well.
                  throughout my life i chose to make my own decsions.some were right and i enjoyed the results, other were fatall mistakes and i hated myself for them.
                  but at the end i thank Allah that i did it on my own, becuase otherwise i wouldnt have coped with the results if the choice were not my own.

                  • At 2011.03.06 15:29, Amira AK said:

                    Making decisions for me can be pure agony. I’ve made quite a few decisions in my life.. some were good and some were bad and I sometimes think ‘what if..’ but I never regret, because I always believe that consequences of some of the decisions you take are grounds for learning. And I have learnt from quite a few of my mistakes, and they’ve set me back a bit but they’ve made me stronger (no wiser though). These days I have to make one of the most important decisions of my career and I’ve been thinking and pondering and contemplating for the past 10 days now and I think – maybe, hopefully – that I might have woken up this morning with a clearer perspective of where the decision is taking me. People might not like it, but it’s something that we have to face when we take difficult decisions I believe. Even if it’s a bad decision, I’m going to enjoy it and make the most of it.