The gratitude game

As a mother I try really hard to instill the right values in my daughter.  It is an ongoing and conscious process that keeps evolving. One of those values I really want to instill in her is gratitude for all the blessing we have.  If you have seen the movie or read the book Pollyanna you should be familiar with the Glad Game.  Pollyanna would say why she were glad with the things she has even if it were not what she really wanted in the first place.  Now this is a lovely game to teach to children, but since my little one is still too young to recognize things like that on her own we play a different game.

For the last couple of nights after lights out and story time we start saying الحمد الله (Thank God) for all the things we are grateful for.  I start saying the things we did during the day and the things we have and the things we got.  Silly things, big things just anything I think she should be grateful for.  For example:  Thank God for the wonderful day we had, thank God we have wonderful friends at the nursery, thank God Lulu is healthy, thank God Mummy loves Lulu and Lulu loves Mummy,  and I keep going until she falls asleep.

Sometimes she just parrots what I saw and then sometimes she comes up with her own stuff like last night she said thank God for Kitty.  Kitty is her favorite Hello Kitty doll who gets dragged around all day and does everything with her.

The exercise is also good for me, because it helps me unwind even when the day has been tough.  I am reminded of all the wonderful blessings we have and that they are all gifts from God.  They are not rights but favors which are not always permanent but plenty.  I felt she had to learn to be thankful to the creator just as she is taught to say thank you to people around her.

What values do you try to instill in your children and how?  I would love to get more ideas.

1 Comment

  • At 2011.06.24 21:51, Fruitful Fusion said:

    I think this is a brilliant idea! I love it and want to do the same with my 3 year old. For my older kids, we discuss things that we are grateful for and I encourage them to journal their blessings. One of the things that I want them to to do is a produce a “Me Mosaic” of all the things about themselves that makes them special, things that they are proud of, things that they are grateful for, etc. I think this is something positive for them to look at when they’re not feeling down about something.